

Forgiveness Is Not What You Think: A nervous system reframe for real healing
Many of us were taught that forgiveness means excusing harm, reconciling, or ‘being the bigger person.’ We were told it’s about letting someone off the hook — about moral virtue or spiritual maturity.
But when you’ve lived through deep hurt, those definitions feel impossible. They can even feel like betrayal.
You might think: “If I forgive, I’m saying what happened was okay.” “If I forgive, I’m letting them win.” “If I forgive, I’m abandoning myself.”

Carole Randell
Sep 14 min read





